Singles that have challenges the most are those who have issues in the past which they have not taken care off.
The past tells a lot about what the outcome of the future will be like; if you relate with couples with successful marriages, you will find the relationship between two individuals who learn from the past and do not live in it.
If I will do a mathematical equation of the correlation of the past to the present and future, it will look like this- The Past= The Present= The Future.
Why is the past an antecedent to the future? I strongly believe that it is because the past is where what we call experience come from; our accepted concept is that experience is the best teacher, and so over 80% of our decisions in life come from the experience of the past.
What is your past like? What pain have you gone through that seemed to be controlling the way you view the opposite sex? If you do not take care of it, you will not see the kind of relationship you desire come to reality.
No one who walks and keeps his attention to his back walks straight.
Someone says that, ‘Our lives gravitate to the direction of our dominant thoughts.’ If your dominant thoughts is that of the pain of the past, which is the reality you will keeping seeing in the present and future.
When a single that comes to me for counseling has experience heartbreak, what I ask them is what they have learnt from it. What they have learnt from that experience is far more than what they have lost, because it will help guard them against similar one.
I am of the opinion that in many matters of life, experience is never meant to be the best teacher. Experience should teach; however, it should not be made the reality because what walked for an individual may not do the same for another.
Over time I have come to a conclusion that the past is a core determinant of the future.
Life is like a classroom; the past is one of the classes you have to pass its examine to move to the next class.
Everyone that reads this write up has the right to prove me wrong; people who have gone through heartbreaks over and over again are those who did not sit down to understudy why their relationship failed in the first place.
How is your present life like? If you are not enjoying any aspect of it, ruminate on the past event that may have lead to the present predicament; learn from it and leave the rest.
extracts from my write on the past, the present= the future.
femi fasanya
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
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